If your child is not feeling his responsibility, your anxiety over his irresponsible attitude is quite natural as being parent you are responsible for physical as well mental growth of your child.
Escape from Responsibility: See if you are escaping from your own responsibility but you will not avoid its consequences. Despite of your repeated instructions, if your child does not keep his books in shelf, throws away his clothes over carpet, does not do the home task, it means there is something wrong with him, and refusal on his part needs your special attention.
Behavior Moulding: Keep it mind that behavior moulding of your child is not a miraculous task. You keep on talking and advising him about his responsibilities and he will learn to follow as he grows.
Responsibility Realization: Make him realize that if he does not accept his responsibility, he has to face resultantly. Just for example: if he does not put the clothes in hamper habitually. Once, his clothes should be left unwashed. When he does not find the clean clothes and shouts, ask him to do the task himself, in this way, he may feel his mistake.
Responsible Child: Tell your child, (1) What is responsibility? (2) What is irresponsibility? Remove this misconception from your own mind that your child is in-born irresponsible, contrarily he possessed the required capability to adopt a responsible attitude and outlook on his birth, but we were negligent to write something decent on his innocent brain at an early stage. Behavior building starts immediately when the child opens his eyes in this new world, to train him is no doubt a long exercise and needs the strong patience but it yields good and pleasing results.
Persuasions: Don’t go on reminding your children continuously about any particular activity, do this and not do this, all sorts of such things, children take it as a routine lecture and least bother to care. Remind them once and leave the rest upon them.
Keep Watching: The parents can play an important role if they keep their children watching, as this improves their performance. They should be aware of food intake habits of their children and keep them advising to improve their eating choices. Tell them to avoid restricted foods while attending a party.
Parental control should not be loosened in any time if you intend to see the growing responsibility in your children.
Establishing Standards: Establish certain rules for them to follow and encourage them on their attainment, children attitude and behavior can be streamlined and addressed in this way.
Develop a Sense of Care for Others: Ask your child to show respect to his elders, be concerned to the class mates, friends and to cooperate with them in hour of need. This will develop a sense of love for whole humanity and will make him civilized citizen in future.
Avoid Dictatorial Behavior: Give your child a liberty to independently take certain decisions but under your guidance and after seeking your prudent advice. He will feel elevated and behave with more responsibility. But if you suppress him and force him to do strictly under your tyranny, it may irritate him and lead him to confrontation.
Ask Indirectly: Better to adopt an indirect way to get the desired objectives, supposing if you want that your child should complete the home task, then instead of directing him “Start your home work” you can ask what home task was assigned to you today. The child will understand and will start his work willfully. Try to develop a thinking process in him.
Allow Him to Handle Difficult Situations: If your child feels difficulty in day to day tasks, he should be given liberty and encouragement to handle tough jobs himself rather affording a helping hand all the times. This will give him confidence and enable him to deal with any challenging activity.
Avoid Worsening Behavior: Your strategies should aim at building a sense of responsibility in your child but avoid worsening the situation. If such condition develops you should jump on to other available options to effectively cope with the matter.
Avoid “Irresponsible” Classification: Never say your child, you are irresponsible but try to explain him, in hidden words, what is a responsible way to perform under these conditions.
The above tips will give you some insight to understanding your beloved children.